My mother-in-law passed away recently. It was very quick, which made me happy for her, because I was very fond of her and didn't want to see her in so much pain. She left behind her three sons, her husband, a grandson, and an ex-husband to whom she was still very fond of as well.
I made the great mistake of telling her son (whom I live with) that she visited me. This was a night later after they had pulled the plug (so to speak). He is not a believer, and never would have seen her. He was also not home at the time.
I was getting ready for bed, putting on hand cream, etc when, there she was standing by the bedroom door. She did NOT look remotely see-through or ghost like. All she did was tell me to tell her Schatzis and her husbands (by name) that she loves them and that she is OK. (I was a little offended I wasn't included, but that is beside the point).
I got up and went over to her because she seemed so real, and by the time I got to her, she'd vanished. I went out to the balcony and sat there for a long time. When my husband came home I told him what she said, and he just said I must have been dreaming. I truly believe she wanted them to know, as she was a very spiritual person. Her sons, however, are not so I'll keep my mouth shut henceforth.
It was nice to see her again. And for the record, which I won't tell the sons, she was young and smoking a cigarette, which she hadn't done in many years. But it was definitely her.
I still wish there was a way to convince the boys that she loves them - but it seems a hopeless point if they will just think I'm nuts, or dreaming. The only happy point is that I got to see her one last time in her youth. Shame on me, I didn't ask her what was on the other side that made her OK?