We have always had odd little things happen around our house, especially after my daughter was born. Nothing big, just little things here and there, like when I was rocking her one day I felt someone squeeze my foot. It was a comfort squeeze and nothing more, but I was home alone with her. I always figured it was a passed away relative coming to see the new addition. Right after her first birthday, everything stopped.
Last weekend, we rearranged her room to make it more of a big girl's room, and started to get things together for her second birthday. The first night she was getting ready to go to bed she was crying and said that she didn't want to sleep in her room. I figured it was because of the change and told her she had to. She started to get frantic about it so I asked her what was wrong.
She said it was a scary room. I asked her what was scary and she told me her dolls were scaring her. We took out every single doll but she was still freaking out. We asked her what else was wrong and she pointed to hall and kept saying, "Scary grandma." I looked and didn't see anything. I asked her what she was talking about and she just kept saying, "Scary grandma" over and over. I asked her if she wanted me to tell the grandma to leave and she said yes. I looked over to where she was pointing to and said, "Grandma, you have to leave. You are scaring Libby and she needs to go to sleep."
My daughter immediately calmed down and went right to bed. We had the same exact thing happen last night except she was pointing to the closet, instead. Once we told grandma to leave she calmed down and went right to sleep.
I don't know if I can do if anything in this situation. I just hate the thought that my child is scared of her own room. I am sure that if anyone is in there they are just there to see her and not to harm or scare her, but I am still uneasy about it.
I have read the previous comments and agree with the posters that your subtle reaction to the events is trully admirable! The last thing you need is to let your two-year old sense your fear.
I don't think that your "visitor" is necessarily a past relative-it may very well be a spirit attached to the house which seems to be quite gentle and I dare say protective of your little "miracle". She seems to pat you when you lull it to sleep and comes to watch over it when she's sleeping as if to check if all is ok. I understand though, that no matter how 'harmless' she appears, her presence is still unnerving. And yet, you must have noticed that her intentions aren't really bad. She leaves when you ask her to do so. Take note of that!
My suggestion is meant as a side-note to what the previous posters suggested: talk to the energy yourself. Even if you don't see her, your child does and knows she's there. Tell her that her concern for your daughter is much appreciated as long as she doesn't scare her. Talk to her as you talk to a flesh and blood person who's standing there in front of you. Let her know that the fear she causes to your child prevents it from sleeping. I believe she will listen to you and respect your wish. I would also suggest along with what Whitebuffalo suggested, to place any object that holds religious or belief value to you inside your child's room:if you're a Christian, use a cross if you're not anything you hold sacred. It will protect your surroundings and strengthen your resistence.
Good Luck!