Constant Dream

Hi Bluerose,

Even I had a dream where in my grandmother (paternal) came and asked me for some food. I informed my mom and she actually forgot to do puja that year on the her anniversary

Please share the toy details.

That's a very nice story... My father in law also had similar experiences...

You are most welcome Bluerose19, I narrated my experience as I felt a similarity between mine and your dads dreams. As you said even I didn't have grandmother in my mind. But still she came in my dreams so that I would talk to my father and solve the issues between us. Once I did that, I never had her dream again. She would have been sad seeing her son going through these troubles. Chats why she came in my dreams. I would like to know more if he had any more dreams after that. If its ok for you to share. Thanks. Cheers. 😁

Exactly Bilayak! Now reading that, I find so much similarity between the meaning of your dream and my father's! I am sure its definitely not because his brother was in his mind that he kept seeing him in his dream. Thank you very much for your support, and also for your comment.Cheers! 😁

Hi Bluerose, Thanks for sharing your Dads experience. Sometimes our loved one who are departed try converse through our dreams. There have been many instances where in a person sleeping sees his/her loved one in dream trying to say something. I had a similar experience with my departed grand mother coming in my dreams constantly. She died when I was around 18. Due to my teenage arrogance I was not in good terms with my father. I always used to have fights with him. He used to deny me going out with my buddies and all. And I used to sneak out at night and used to get into trouble. I was a real pain in his otherwise happy life. Due to my behavior he was facing depression issues, resulting him in having high blood pressure. I never used to bother about his depression as I was nuts at that age and never used to listen to anyone. My dad was my grandmothers favorite out of her 6 children. So she had special love for me over her other grand children. And even I was very fond of her. It started after 6 months or so from her death. I was seeing her in my dreams constantly. She never scared me but I was disturbed. In my dreams I used to see her sitting under a tree, her face not clear but I knew it was her as she dressed in a particular way as Hindus in south India do. Despite me trying to talk to her she will not even look at me. I would repeatedly call her but she would not talk to me. I saw this dream for a week and I started getting worried. I told my mother about this. Then my mother said you should apologize to your father as your grandmother is sad because of your attitude towards your father. I was reluctant at first but later I did apologize to him. And believe me from that day I never had that dream gain. Cheers. 😁

Binny- The mail has been sent to your id, please check it. Thanks once again for your interest in my story. 😊 God Bless you!

Thank you Bluerose19:) I can understand your hesitation. My id is binny12680[at]gmail.com

Hey Binny! Thank you so much for liking my story.However,I feel naming the toy here would be a bit sensitive from an angle. But I will definitely let you know what it was, if you please give me your mail id.
Hope you don't mind. Thank you again.

Hi Bluerose19! Read your account.I've heard of similar cases. Very interesting one. Thanks for sharing.I've also heard of many hauntings relating to 'toys'.May be 'toys' have some specific meaning in the spiritual realm! Who knows... May I ask What was the toy your father's brother asking for? Can you describe the toy?, its size,shape,colour etc., just anything you know about it.

A nice story. But it may be, you know, just coincidence that the dreams stopped after keeping the doll in the graveyard.

Geetha brings up an interesting point. It is not unusual for accounts of possible sightings to include details of strange sensations; tingling, slowing of time, haziness etc. But many other experiences don't coincide with unusual feelings, to the point that it may take a few minutes to figure out that what we are seeing is 'not right' in some way or make us wonder if our eyes were playing tricks on us. It certainly makes one wonder where the lines are between apparitions, visions, hallucinations & physical anomalies. One thing seems certain, the mind, like the world is certainly complex & fascinating.

I would argue that those dreams feel different because our unconscious mind was trying harder than usual to get an important message to our conscious mind. That they are telling us something we truly need to know. I see another possibility in that our emotions are engaged when we dream & with dreams of lost loved ones our emotions will be extremely high. Moments in our waking life that are filled with extreme emotion feel different as well. Thus we describe the moments of falling in love in terms like "floating on air" & "seeing fireworks." I know that in times of extreme tragedy & grief the world feels surreal, abnormal & we can feel completely detached from ourselves. It's logical that dreams that stir our emotions can have similar effects. I have had dreams involving lost loved ones & even living people in danger that have felt very different from average dreams. They were extremely significant messages but that does not require an outside source in my opinion & often those dreams (my own & those others have shared with me) don't make sense as actual messages from the deceased. I confess I wonder if some people enter an altered state while sleeping, similar to a shaman's trance or an OBE that people have learned to achieve. Perhaps the soul is leaving the body & traveling to a level on which souls can interact regardless of the state of their physical body (living or not). But without more data that is just one of a million possibilities that are all far less likely than the known mechanics (themselves poorly understood of course) of dreams due to mental processes.

I agree with granny and Happy Spirit on this one. When you experience anything paranormal when you are awake, you can tell the difference in your surroundings. I think everyone could agree with that. Now with the dreams, I believe they are the act the same way. This is speaking my personal experience. Like my mother and grandmother, I am able to interact (for a lack of a better word) with things from the paranormal (many times it being my maternal grandmother) though the so call dreams. I could tell the difference between having an actual dream and having a paranormal experience because in which state I'm in and to which state I can remember the events. For example, in my story, A special bond, I had drifted off to sleep but when I interacted with Patrick, I was in that state between sleep and awake; some how I woke enough to experience that with Patrick. The same thing in Grandma warned me; when my grandma came to me I was in a deep sleep but aroused to the state between sleep and awake and my feelings and senses were on alert.

With the dreams, it is different because of the feelings you get and many times, like granny said, you forget many of the stuff in the dreams.

As for your father's experience, I won't be able to tell if your father a dream or an experience (only your father can tell that). But I believe his brother came to him as a final goodbye and get his favourite toy before crossing over.

zzsgranny: When my Dad related this incident to me a few years ago, he started crying. He said he remembers every bit of the 'form' that his brother appeared in his dream-Imagine the 'dream' that he saw was more than 35 years ago, but yet he remembers him to have appeared so very 'real' and 'alive'!

You are totally correct when you said its hard to describe to anyone who hasn't had the experience...

Happyspirit: Thanks for your comment.

Nysa: I am sure mods (zzgranny in my case) do not just blindly 'reject' stories just because they are 'dreams'.And well, you said its not that his brother actually played with the toy after getting it... Who knows whether he played with it or not?...Neither I saw him playing,, nor you. One or some villagers might have 'seen' him playing also (after his death), but my father, or his family, or me might not have come across those people to know about (may be) those 'sightings'! But I would say that practically, it is quite possible that some child/human might have picked up that toy after seeing it where it was kept, but I am sure the 'stopping' of the dream coming to my father can only be explained as (what I feel) the brother might have got 'peace' that since the toy was returned to him even if it was in his graveyard, it surely does not 'belong' to my father 'anymore'. He actually got what he 'wanted' in his other side of the world...

HappySpirit: In my opinion, and from what I've experienced, visits in dreams have a different "feel"...It's hard to describe to anyone who hasn't had the experience, but you know you're being visited at the time...There's no question, no need to determine whether what you're experiencing is real or "just a dream"...I'm someone who rarely remembers dreams, but the visitations I do remember... Maybe it's just because I want to?...I'm no expert either, all I can do is relate to these experiences...

Thanks for sharing, Bluerose.

Dreams may not be supernatural in nature - I am not an expert on this - but after the death of everyone of significance in my life I have always had a dream that felt like a "contact dream". Unlike subsequent dreams about the deceased (which felt simply like my subconscious working out grief or memories) these initial dreams had a compelling, vivid feel and there was always an important message for me or something to that effect. Again, could be simply my imagination or subconscious, but I like to feel that they were contact. It is easier for me to understand communication with the deceased through a dream than in the physical as I am not the type to whom ghosts appear.

I did not say that he was afraid OF his brother, I said he was afraid his brother would feel lonely & the dreams would have stopped because taking the toy to his grave would have been an acting of comforting the brother, easing your father's tormented mind to some degree. Are you saying you believe that the brother came to the grave & played with the toy or took it to the afterlife or his next life with him thus appeasing him by GIVING it to him?

We dream about people we know constantly when they are alive why would we stop when they die? It's never them coming to us in our dreams then. I firmly believe that dreams are products of our unconscious mind & nothing else. I understand that others disagree & accept that I could be wrong but I see no logical argument for that possibility at this time. I respect that you believe it was supernatural but I disagree. People are going to disagree about conclusions on a site like this, there is no point in being childish about it.

I have seen others complain in comments that the dreams they thought to be supernatural were rejected as stories for the site so I surmised that it was the policy to avoid posting stories that were strictly dreams not part of a wider story of paranormal activity so I was surprised this was posted. I thought I was clear in stating that I thought that was the reason others weren't posted & it was simply my own conclusion.

This isn't a dream interpretation site... When someone wants to understand why the orange unicorn told them not to swallow the green pill while they did the hokey-pokey on Mount Olympus with Aphrodite on rollar skates, the discard button gets pushed... In this instance, such is not the case...

Bluerose: I believe our loved ones do visit us in dreams sometimes...I'm looking forward to reading more about your family's/your experiences 😊...Thank you for posting!

Nysa: Thanks for your comment. Yes his brother was of the same age in the dream as he was at the time he died. Did I mention that my father was 'afraid' of his brother?...No not!...But Grandma must have understood 'something' after my father related the story to her,, and so she told my father to return that toy to his brother. How can you explain why the dream 'stopped' coming to my father after he actually returned the toy?...I believe some dreams are definitely supernatural.

And Thanks to the admin who selected my story to be published. It was really a quick response. 😁

Was the brother 13/14 in the dreams or younger? It is obvious that your father was afraid his brother would be lonely without him & the toy represented their togetherness. Such dreams are not uncommon after a loss & while poignant, they are not supernatural in nature. I thought that was why YGS had a policy about not posting stories about dreams.