I used to live in a small town in Big Bear Lake California. It's in the woods and a lot of things happen there that people do not see or know about. I'm 29 years old now but I have to share this experience I had numerous times while I lived there.
My friend's house was creepy as is but what happened to me scared the heck out of me. It was late in the evening around 12am and we were coming back to his place to party a little more. He headed up the stairs which was dark and had a sharp corner you turned to go up. As I was walking up the stairs I felt someone behind me and it felt like my heart was going to explode and a sense of "being the most scared I have ever been in my life" came over me. I stopped and within a second my mind told me to run as fast as I could but I was frozen. I felt like something was looking at me in my eyes and breathing on me. My friend started to look for me and turned on the light. I then became unfrozen and booked it up the stairs.
I didn't want to sound crazy so I told him I couldn't see in the dark and I froze not wanting to trip. It was a flat out LIE! He became a boyfriend after time and the same experience happened to me about 3 more times. The last time it happened I wasn't frozen and was able to run, as I was running I felt like it was chasing me up the stairs and on the last stair I tripped and fell forward. I lost my breath and my boyfriend laughed at me as he seen me fall. I can remember the feelings I had to this very minute. It's a feeling that I can't explain, I try to and it won't come out. I don't know the words.
Also, I have had dreams for a long time that actually come true. This happens a lot and it's got to the point where I remember the dream so well that if I choose to do something else the bad thing will not happen. I need to better understand my dreams as well.
A sad story really.
This is just my opinion. I feel very sorry for what life must have been like in that house for your friend.
I'm thinking your empathy and sensitivity picked up on the terror your boyfriend felt going up those stairs, with an abusive father breathing down his neck.
It gives me the shivers just thinking about it.
Maybe his awful father's spirit is still lurking at the bottom of the stairs.
His mother was obviously not happy in life.
I hope your friend is okay now. Also yourself.
Your dreams I don't know. I have very lucid dreams, but not like yours.
Best wishes xx