Comments for My Cousin Attended Her Own Funeral: Page 1

Oceana,
I'm sure your cousin had some underlying issues that had nothing to do with comments on this website. Don't get me wrong but I don't think anyone would decide to off themselves right away like that...

Yeah, it's a bit weird but she took the comments to heart. She was already down anyway and just felt like a few meaningless comments were against her.
The police wouldn't have seen any cyberbullying, because it was just in her view that the comments were against her. She thought people were against her and they weren't actually.

Oceana - Please accept my condolences.

It seems that this is a suicide case and that cyber bullying was the cause. Is this sophiethunder? Please let us know, there is no reason to hide it from us.

Regards, Melda

This may seem unsensitive and harsh but, if you ask me, some points in your story are hard to understand:

Since your cousin's death was ruled a suicide, wouldn't that automatically involve the police and a criminal investigation?

From https://www.samh.org.uk/documents/After_a_suicide.pdf

The Police.

When a body is found under circumstances which may indicate suicide, the police will:
* retain any item that has an obvious connection with the death...
* examine any notes or letters that the person has left which indicate a suicidal intention
* make enquiries to establish the person's state of mind before their death...
Police enquiries can take many different forms and often involve interviewing family, friends and colleagues as potential witnesses

Your own words:

I wonder why she can't move on. Maybe she can't be at peace while her tormentors are still at large.
I can't do that. I have no evidence. It was just online bullying, really, but it drove her over ther edge.
Yes, I guess they could. Maybe I should report it. It might make her at peace.

I don't understand your reluctance to talk to the police if, to begin with, they should have been aware of the reasons that pushed your cousin to take her life and already investigating; secondly, if the police interviewed you and her closest family members and boyfriend, it was your and their duty to inform them about the problem.

She smiled at me and told me she wasn't in pain anymore... I knew which sort of pain she meant and who caused it.
Did you advice her to look for any legal and/or psychological help? Since you know who was tormenting her, wouldn't providing this information to the police be enough to get a warrant to seize their computer?

I'm sorry for your loss. Maybe she didn't want you to be upset.

Yes, I guess they could. Maybe I should report it. It might make her at peace.

Hi oceana,
From your comment, if your cousin was cyber bullied online then that would stay there forever. Police could build a case upon that...

I can't do that. I have no evidence. It was just online bullying, really, but it drove her over ther edge.

Ohhh bro that's so sad! 😭
Maybe she wants you to go to the police and bring those POS to justice. 😭

Hello Oceana,
You said you saw your cousin standing in the corner of the church looking at her coffin, and that she died a few weeks ago but you can't say how... Maybe she came to tell you and others what happened and how she died.
This must be very difficult for you. Seeing your cousin must be comforting, but, it must be hard for your cousin not being able to move onto the next realm.

I'm so sorry for your loss. 😭 🙄

My thoughts are with you.
SWS. 😘

Hi Oceana,

I'm so sorry that you lost your cousin so recently; your story is very heart-wrenching. It sounds like you were close during her life, and it does sound as though she is trying to reassure you that she is alright now. I think it's wonderful that you are so open to her visits with you, and that you aren't afraid.

In your last sentence, you mentioned that "the loss isn't so bad if the person you miss keeps turning up to comfort you" - that actually gave me a slight chill. My daughter stated nearly your same exact words to me, after she told me about her father visiting her at our home (he's been deceased for months now). My feeling is that people who experience visits and sightings, are very fortunate to have such an apparently strong bond with their loved ones.

Take Care, ❤ LightMight

I wonder why she can't move on. Maybe she can't be at peace while her tormentors are still at large.

I agree with Maria, it's really sad that she couldn't move on and I hope whoever caused her pain gets what they deserve but more than that I hope she gets to be at peace

Oceana,

I think I would be more upset if I kept seeing her. You said:

"The loss isn't so bad if the person you miss keeps turning up to comfort you."

I think that her inability to move on from this Earth would be an indication that she is not at peace. That would hurt worse than her absence.

- Maria