I'm one of 5 siblings. When my older brother Stephen was 4 years old he died of a pneumonia and my mother was completely heartbroken. A year later in 1993 I was born and was even named after my brother, his name being Stephen Michael and my name being Stephanie Michelle.
I remember this one night when I must have been turning 6 or 7 as it was about three in the morning on my birthday. I was asleep on the couch with a severe cold and my mom slept on the other side of the couch with me. When I woke up in the middle of the night, I happened to look in front of me at my mom sleeping and there was a little boy with blonde hair and blue striped overalls looking down at her with the most sad look in his eyes.
I continued to stare at him for what seemed like minutes until he slowly turned his head my way and saw I was watching him. The boy looked startled and a little frightened that I was staring at him and slowly faded away until he was gone. I fell asleep quickly after, not feeling too alarmed as it seemed he was innocent enough.
When I woke the next morning I told my mom what I had seen and she told me maybe it was Stephen coming to see his mother and visit. I think she may be right.
When I grew older and saw more photos of Stephen from the few years he was alive, I was convinced that the boy I had seen at three in the morning was my long dead brother. He was identical to the little boy I had seen with the same blonde hair and it seemed around the same age as Stephen was when he had died. It's sad to think that if what I saw really was my brother that he was sad in the afterlife.
Maybe write a letter and set it aside and place him name on the envelope hopefully he can conclude his family loves him and will be informed of the new addition after his passing.
I'm sorry for your loss...